"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." Christopher Robin

Introduction:

Mother's Day - A day of celebration, of love, of happiness. But for those waiting to be a mum it can be one of the hardest days of the year.

This coming weekend is Mother’s Day in the UK, a beautiful day when we celebrate motherhood of all kinds. When you are trying for a baby and on a TTC journey however, Mothers’ Day can give you very mixed feelings.

Whilst you want to celebrate the women in your life who have helped shaped you into the person you are today, supported you and have been a shoulder to cry on, there is a part of you that can feel so empty and sad, full of longing for that baby that won’t come. All that you want is to be receiving that special hand drawn card created by your own little person, a small bunch of flowers tied together – to be celebrated for doing something that so many do without effort or thought which seems so out of reach for you right now.

Having to go through a day that celebrates motherhood seems to make everything worse, amplifying every feeling and disappointment that you have been through on your TTC journey.

Your feelings will be so mixed, you could be feeling sad, angry, disappointed, hopeful, inspired, fearful, stressed, despondent, jealous – so many emotions all coming together and you are beating yourself up for having them, annoyed at yourself for feeling jealous and frustrated at how the day makes it feel .

My Journey

When I was on my own journey I would dread Mother's Day – although I loved celebrating my incredible mother, who having had her own very difficult fertility journey to have me and who was my rock through my process, the feeling I felt of missing out, being excluded, not being celebrated was very painful and would only increase the gap I felt between myself and my friends who had their families. I would shy away, try not to show my feelings and avoid visiting family whilst they were all celebrating. I thought that this was the right way to approach the situation, the right way to protect myself from all going on around me. To block it out and wait out the day until it it was finished, hoping and wishing that by the time the next one came round I would have my own baby or at least one on the way so I could be included.

Years later, when I started to study how the mind worked as part of my training to be a hypnotherapist and then through even further in depth understanding of our thoughts and beliefs whilst studying to be a Fertility Coach I began to see how I had got it so wrong! By hiding away, by avoiding others celebrating, by blocking it all out and avoiding situations with families, I was giving the completely wrong instruction to my mind, to my operating system.

Our thoughts become our reality

We are our thoughts and our beliefs, what we think we become and our mind’s sole purpose is to keep us safe, to protect us from anything that it believes will bring us harm, those thoughts and beliefs are locked away in our sub conscious. All those years ago when i had hidden myself away and avoiding situations that celebrated Motherhood I had been programming my mind that babies and families were something to be avoided, and sadly by doing that I was instructing it that this was something that was not safe to have. Although my conscious thought was to desperately want a baby, every time I took myself away, every time I was avoiding babies I was reenforcing those thoughts back to my mind and my subconscious, which is far stronger and deeper than our conscious thoughts.

Make your own future

So, my advice to you is embrace this Mother’s Day – buy yourself a card and write it to yourself from your future baby. Pin it on a board where you can see it every day. Buy flowers for yourself celebrating you and your journey. And your friends, if any of them are new mums, offer to look after their baby for an hour or two, while they sleep or relax as chances are they would appreciate that more than flowers or cards. Hold that baby, feel it in your arms, take in its scent and visualise doing the same with your own baby very soon. Your mind will feel these emotions, see the pictures that you are making in your head and start to instruct your subconscious that this is safe for you and something that it can make happen for you. Practice being a mum and make your dreams come true.

Let me help you

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